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Is It Time To Assess Your Team Leadership Skills ?

What do you stand for?….Do you have a WHY? …  Dreams, Goals and Visions for the future.
Do you Believe in what you are doing and work with Passion?

Are you breaking rules in order to change the world?

Rules are there for many reasons……Company Compliance is at the top of the list and not meant to be broken .

All Companies have guidelines,ethic standards that should be followed….are you ?

What are you passionate about, something that is part of your world that needs changing? Something you, your company, or your products can help change?

Passion should be showing….wear it with pride. Tell the world about it and don’t beat around the bush talking small talk.

You should be proud to talk about your Passion…Do you ?

Who are you leading?………are you leading your team or leading yourself?

Are they following you because by default they are on your team, or are they following you because they WANT to be associated with you?

Do they know ……….and trust you? Do you believe in this method?

Is your focus on serving them? …..or are you serving comes first?

Do you think of what you can make or how far you can go? or do you think of   how you could change their lives by helping them.



Do you believe in your team mates and their potential for success?  How well do you communicate that vision with them?

Do you discuss action plans with them, show them how to set goals and work towards them?

Do you tell them that you believe in them, this is very important to me to let them know that as it is a great confidence booster to those who are new or a little shy


Are you a responsible leader?
Responsibility comes with Leadership….you need to answer this question very deeply. Write down your answer and think deeply why you came to the conclusion you did.

Do you accept total responsibility for you and your team? This answer is vital because they are your team…..they look up to you for leadership and advice…..if they fail is it your responsibility? I think this is a two pronged question.
Is it because they did not work hard enough or were you not there for them enough.

Are you taking action in building your own personal business or are you mostly focused on what your team is doing?
Both of these questions need answers…..Do you set daily tasks for yourself, set and achieve your own personal goals?
Are you mainly focused on your team and why?

Do you think there should be a good  balance between the two and Why? ….write it down.

How strong are your communication skills?

How important are communication skills to you ?

Are your messages/training getting through to your team?

How well do you embrace change?……there can be many changes within a business, products, compensation plan, Management…do you cope with these well?

When your company discontinues your favourite product line or updates their ordering process how do you handle it?  Do you complain or look at it as a new opportunity?

How do you view and handle obstacles in your own business and life?
This question goes two ways …personal and business. Can you separate the two? Do either impact on your role as leader?

Are you decisive and can you think on your feet? Sometimes you have to make instant decisions….can you or does this weigh you down?

Are you focused?….does your business have your complete focus…if no  ….WHY…write it down.

Do you have a system you follow, focusing on fundamentals or do you have A.D.O.S.–”Attention Deficit…Ooh, Shiny!”
Do you continually move and encourage your team to follow if you think you have found something new….Have you given the business you are in a chance or do you think you might be “higher up in the system” if you get into something new early ?


Does your team understand your system and can they easily communicate it to their down lines? Is your system simple enough for all to understand without being left behind ?

Do you have a network marketing success mindset; do you set goals and stick with them until you achieve them?……write your answer down..

Are you trustworthy? …ask yourself and answer why…

Do you speak the truth, even if it may hurt someone?…do you worry about hurting their feelings even though it may help them?

Do you have the confidence to confront someone who isn’t following your company/team’s code of ethics? (Do you even have a code of ethics?)
Do you understand how this may affect you if you don’t confront them ….Do you know where the “buck stops” or do you even care?

Are you constantly improving your own skills and investing in your own education?
Do you believe in self improvement? Why? ….question yourself

Do you accept criticism well and use it as an opportunity to improve yourself?
Do you accept this type of criticism as constructive or just plain annoying?

How often do you assess your approach, your skills, and brainstorm ways you could improve? Do you do this at all?
Do you think you have any weak points and can you improve them?

Network marketing leadership skills are developed through action and bravery.
Having a team does not always make you a leader…


Leadership takes courage, stepping out in faith before you are 100% confident, being optimistic and having a vision,passion, developing charisma and your own leadership style.  It takes courage to do what’s right, to go against the status quo, and to admit you are weak in certain areas.  In my opinion that is what makes a great network marketing leader.

What about you?…..what do you think?


How To Be an Effective Network Marketing Leader

This picture depicts many of the words that come to my mind when I think of an effective leader in network marketing.  Let’s take a look and see how when you put these words into practice you can become a Network Marketing leader.

Motivate-To be a great leader you have to spark a passion in other people to drive them, lead them and motivate them to want success.  When you are a great motivator you help people to see the potential they have in themselves and motivate them to want to reach that potential and more.

Inspire– This quote by John Quincy Adams pretty much says it all, “If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader.”

Lead by Example– If you are looking to become a leader you must lead by example.   I am sure you are familiar with the  saying, “do as I say and not as I do”.  Don’t do that!!!  If that is how you operate becoming a leader might not be in your future.   You want to be sure you are out doing the things you are suggesting for your team to do.  It is hard to respect someone and take them seriously when they are telling you to do something but will not do it themselves.

Mentor-As a mentor in Network Marketing you want to be there as a trusted guide, friend and advisor to the people in your downline.  To me being a  mentor means that people trust you and value your input and the information you share.   Earning trust does not always happen overnight, just work hard to provide consistent, valuable insight.

Coach-Like a coach of a sports team would coach their team and give them plays and instructions you want to do same thing for the the people you sponsor.  You want to help them to figure out what works and show them the “plays” that will make them successful.   Help them by coaching them on your successes so they can duplicate it.

Vision-To be a great leader you need to have a clear vision of what you want to accomplish.  You need to know your mission and have clearly defined goals.   You and your team could even have a vision or mission statement that you are working towards.

Teamwork-Teamwork is extremely important in Network Marketing.  To be a leader in this business you want to teach your downline what you are doing and how to become successful.  While your own sales are very important  it is equally as important to build a downline of leaders who will replicate what you are doing.   Don’t hold back what has made you a success as some sort of secret.  Some of your success is dependent on the success of the people you sponsor so be sure to freely share what you are doing to build your business.

Win-Put all these together and you win.  You have a great combination to become a leader and thrive in life and your business.

Using the Power of Blogging

“Blogging can be a very powerful part of your network marketing MLM business advertising and promotion strategy”
As a network marketer, blogging can be a very powerful part of your advertising and promotion strategy. In fact, it wouldn’t be too much of a stretch to say that if you’re operating your own network marketing business in the 21st century, then you need to start a blog.

The reason a blog is so important is that in your network marketing business, you are ultimately marketing yourself.  You are not marketing your product, nor are you marketing your opportunity. Having your own blog is a very effective way to begin branding yourself..
Remember, in network marketing or MLM you are ultimately marketing yourself
So in this age of the Internet, if you do not take steps to brand yourself with your own website presence, then you are at an immediate disadvantage against all of the savvy network marketers that do.
In  this article, I’m going to describe the basics  of how to set up and utilize your own blog to build a brand.
Ideally, you should set up your blog as a self-hosted WordPress blog and host it on your own hosting account. There are some key advantages to taking this approach, particularly in terms of search engine optimization, but if you prefer to take the path of least resistance, you can always utilize a free account or a free WordPress account..
You will also want to set up your own domain name for the blog. Remember that you are looking to brand yourself, so using your own name in your website domain name is never a bad move. So see if is available. Another alternative is to try a variation such as If the .com extension is taken, try some other extension. Nowadays, there are many different domain name extensions available.
The purpose of your blog is to build your brand name. You want to use the blogging space you’ve set up to establish yourself as a leader. That is what the vast majority of people are looking for and it’s your reputation as a leader that will carry you to success in building your network marketing business.

The purpose of your Blog is to build your brand, not to sell your network marketing business
That means you want to provide meaningful, helpful content that people can use. Your blog is a way in which you establish your identity, so share with readers what you know. Even if you’re brand new, share what you’re learning. Just your willingness to do that will set you apart from the crowd and demonstrate that you are a leader to your readers.
Be prepared to post articles to your blog at least 3 times per week and preferably daily for at least the first 3 to 6 months. A typical blog post needn’t be long. 400 words or so is plenty. But it’s the consistency and quality of your posting that will generate a following (and which will lead the search engine spiders to love you).
And finally, don’t use your blog posts to sell.

Make your posts about helpful, meaningful information that will assist the reader. That’s how you build the value of your brand. Do this in your blog posts consistently and pretty soon people will be asking your about your network marketing business and how to join your team.

Ten Rules Of Leadership For Network Marketers

The network marketing industry has provided more millionaires in the last ten years than in any other industry.

So how do you define leadership?

Leadership is the ability to influence and inspire others to follow you.

Here we have ten rules of leadership in network marketing to guide you. Work on incorporating them into your daily routine. A true leader takes consistent action, so it is important that you be consistent in your application of these rules.

Write down the 10 Rules of Leadership! Get out a piece of paper and pen and write them down, and place where you can see them all the time.

1. A Leader should have a goal larger than those that he/she leads. Your down line needs to know that you are planning for the future and also understand that your financial goals are the same as theirs.

2. The Leader must have an attitude greater then those that he/she leads. A leader is optimistic and focuses on  solutions and not  problems.

3. A Leader is responsible and admits when he/she has made a mistake. As a leader you are responsible for the things that go wrong in your team.

4. A Leader should make decisive decisions. All decisions are not correct, but if they are made with the right reasons in mind, then the right decisions will come more often. Strive to do the right thing and don’t worry about doing things right.

5. A Leader always puts those that he/she leads first. When your down line sees that you are looking out for their best interests, they will work harder since they will realize that your goal is their success. People honestly don’t care what you know until they know how much you care!

Zig Ziglar says – “If you help enough other people get what they want, you’ll always get what you want.”

6. A Leader is in the front of the pack by setting an example to those that he/she leads. A good leader does not just tell others what to do but shows his team how to do it. Take the lead by setting the right example for your down line.

7. A Leader show’s a commitment to integrity and character. Your down line will have confidence in you as a leader when they see you doing “the right thing”.

8. A Leader strives for excellence in everything. Your attitude, appearance, work ethics, and dedication to excellence can help determine your success.

9. A Leader is determined to improving personal growth and development. The only way that you can be a leader that people will follow is to grow personally by learning the skills that are necessary to becoming a master network marketer, then teach to others.

10. A Leader display’s a high level of persistence and determination. Genuine success takes time to achieve. How much time? As long as it takes!

These ten rules are important to any successful network marketing business. Develop your skill with people by following these rules and you will become a great leader. Ignore them, and some day you may wonder what happened.

What does good leadership depend on?

1. Communication skills are critical for allowing you to get your ideas and thoughts across to your down line. If your down line has no idea what to do or how to do it, then how will they succeed or help you build your business?

2. Providing the proper motivation is another key area of successful leadership. Your down line will stagnate when not properly motivated. To increase motivation try challenging your down line with goals that may be out of the ordinary for them.

3. Teamwork. This means not only teaching your down line to work together but also for you to become part of the team. To become a better leader find out what your down line can do and recognize that they may have skills that could benefit your team.

4. Training and education. Take the time to learn everything you can about your network marketing business. Contact your up line for help and advice.

Someone once said, “Leadership has not been tried and found difficult, but instead has been found difficult and left largely untried”.

It’s up to you.

My Moment Of Empowerment!!


One of the most amazing events in my life happened on a recent visit to Thailand with the realization of a dream come true.

On this day the 6th of January 2013 during a visit to Kanchanaburi Thailand I was able to visit the tiger temple which had been a dream of mine for many years, We had a full day planned and the Temple was the 3rd stop on our itinerary.

It took us a while to find as we were driving ourselves and not utilising tourist operators but we found it before opening time , the excitement and anticipation was electric.

The temple is only open to walk the tigers for 2 hours a day….just after they are fed which was a relief for me and like any cat, once they are fed all they want to do is sleep. This is the time to get close to them,while they are drowsy and was I ready to do just that!

We walked through the Park to an assembly area where we were lined up in groups ready to start our walk and an attendant took our camera to take photos for us. I was the second in line to take the lead and as I walked along with one hand on this magnificent creatures back I was completely in awe of what was happening. I then passed the lead to my husband and moved to the back of the line.

Once we reached the canyon the tigers were placed in their positions in the shade and one by one we were lead to each tiger by a staff member who again used our camera to take photos for us. The head monk came over for a picture with us and checked that all was ok.


As the head of the first tiger was placed in my lap and I embraced him in my arms he purred and slept just opening his eyes for a minute….I experienced that moment of empowerment that I COULD do ANYTHING I chose to do.


I continued around touching and embracing each of these wonderful members of the cat family oblivious of their potential to be a danger to their prey.

I am so grateful that I could have this experience which will remain in my mind forever because now I know

I AM capable of anything I choose to do!!!

All you need is a Dream and BELIEVE!!!!


Ten Practical ways to Help Others Succeed


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Here are 10 “Practical” Ways you can Help Others Get What They Want so that you can be more successful .

1. Believe:

We all struggle with self – doubt from time to time. Believing and having faith in others can make all the difference between someone quitting and succeeding.

2. Encourage:

If you’ve got a growing team or are a leader currently assembling one … you’ll be faced with “business humps” and stagnation.

Use words of encouragement to break through to the other side.

3. Expect:

DREAM BIG. Set smart goals, but learn to expect more out of yourself. As the leader, you’ll set the tone of your team. When you expect more from yourself, they will also. Let this spread like wild-fire for amazing results .


4. Truth:

Again, as the leader you’ll need to set the tone on this one. At times, we’ll need to “hurt someone’s feelings” in order to get the truth out.

… teach by example that it’s best to be true to yourself than to cover things up. Others will follow in your lead.

5. Role Model:

This follows from numbers 4 and 5.

Do you want to have a great  team that is getting serious results? Be the best role model you can possibly be. Do the things you want those on your team doing.

6. Share:

Be yourself!

There’s nothing more authentic, real, original and branded than yourself. I love reading and hearing about others successes … and failings. Something about others sharing themselves comes across as magnetic to me.

Open yourself up and share your experiences. People will open up to you and join you on your team.


7. Challenge:

I love challenges … but this is something of an art when it comes to team dynamics.

Learn to tap into people’s talents. Find out what motivates them. Use this to cut through the noise. Set challenges that cut through the “busy work” and focus on “getting results”. Keep it simple, keep it fun.

8. Ask:

Ask, ask and ask.

Great coaches learn to ask “tactful” questions. This isn’t about interrogating your team. This is about getting to know them! Go for the gold. Find out what they’re triggers are. What motivates your team? Why did they join you? What do they expect to accomplish ? What are they dreams, goals and desires?

9. Acknowledge:

We’re all super busy … but never be too busy to acknowledge your team.

Personally, I prefer a phone call. Nothing more authentic than hearing someone’s voice tell you they appreciate you.

This will pay dividends down the road when the “going gets tough”.

10. Time:

Group meetings have they’re place … especially for training and learning.

… but spend some one-on-one time with your crew.


Do What You Love and Love What You Do.



“You’ve got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do.” – Steve Jobs

Well then, the question naturally arises:

How do you find what you love to do? It’s such a big question.

What absolutely boils my blood is that we hear we should be doing what we love to do all the time, but there’s not any step by step advice out there on how to find what you love to do. The advice that is out there helps to a certain degree, but it’s just a bunch of pieces thrown together with no coherent logical structure or order.

A perfect example is this. In order to find your passion, we are told to ask ourselves: “What would you do if you had a million dollars (tax free)?”

The typical answer ensues: “Well gee, I would put it in an account that yields high interest and live off the interest each year. Then I would move to Bali, buy a house, sip margaritas all day, play video games, go to the beach, swim, travel around the world, taste all the cuisines, read the books, play the sports, and on and on and on.”

Does this really help? Not really. Sure, you figured out what your lazy butt likes to do, but it doesn’t really answer the question that’s hidden, which is “How do I make money doing what I love to do?

What’s the result? People working in jobs they hate, feeling trapped because they can’t quit as they rely on that sole source of income to finance a lifestyle tailored to escape their grim reality, drifting aimlessly in life, in short, leading lives of quiet desperation.

Why don’t they just quit their jobs and pursue what they love to do you ask?

Two Reasons.

Reason 1: They don’t know what they love to do.

Reason 2: Fear. They have got a lifestyle to uphold, bills to pay for, families to take care of, fear of no steady source of income, fear of what other people might think or say about them, etc. Fear. Conquer indecision in Reason 1 and ACT, and you will most definitely conquer all fear in Reason 2.

The very fact that you are seeking to find what you love to do  is a BIG step believe it or not. Many people in their lifetime avoid or do not even seek to find the answer to that question. They hear the question in their head but have become extremely adept at silencing it.

It is extremely important to answer the question on how to find what you love to do.

You must decide what destination to steer your life in. Otherwise, you leave yourself wide open for others to direct your life, as well as at the mercy of the winds and storms of life. If you know where your destination is, the rest is easy.

You will find once you know what you want to do, all uncertainty and burden will be lifted off your shoulders and you will have clear vision as to what your journey is and that journey will truly be joyful.

By the time you finish reading this article, I sincerely hope you experience that.

What about how to make money doing what you love?

The question of how to monetize doing what you love is certainly a valid one. There are bills to pay, stomachs to feed, families to support, etc.

Don’t worry about that for now. That will be covered later in this article.

First things first, you have got to find what you love to do.

Why is it so hard to find what you love to do?

The answer is:

It’s not hard at all.

You read right.

It’s not hard at all.

Then why are so many people having difficulty finding what they love to do?

Because they have never truly asked themselves.

What amazes me is that there seems to be a stigma attached to spending time with oneself. You have to constantly be doing something, whether it’s going to the game, drinking beer with the buddies, going to that hot party or club in the city etc. Don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong with doing all that, but I suspect the vast majority of people who engage in this “I have to be doing something every minute because I can’t be by myself” mentality are just putting up a front to show people how satisfying and fulfilling their life is, when in reality, it’s just the opposite. The irony here is that spending time with oneself is EXACTLY what you should be doing to lead a satisfying and fulfilling life.

People think you have to travel around the world, experience new things, etc to find what you love to do. No. You just have to sit down and decide. The answer is already within you. You just have to dig it up and avoid procrastinating. Your brain has absorbed all sorts of information and experiences and it has the answer ready to be unravelled.

Just let it out.

Be honest. Have you actually sat down by yourself with no distractions, with your sole focus on asking yourself what you love to do without picking up your cell phone, surfing the net, watching TV, chatting on AIM, listening to your favourite song, playing solitaire or minesweeper, checking your email, returning a call, getting a drink of water, going to the bathroom, looking at the clock, reading a magazine article, I could go on and on but you get the point. I am going to go out on a limb and say you haven’t for the sole purpose of you reading this article. Why is that?

Fear of what the answer will be if you ask yourself what you love to do.

The answer is: I don’t know.

But that is exactly why you MUST find out. You’re avoiding the question because you know the answer is you don’t know, but that’s ok. Admitting you don’t know is perfectly fine. There’s nothing wrong with it. You’re way ahead of a ton of other people who learn to quiet the voice within that asks the question of “What do I love to do?”

And let’s say you’re one of the few people who actually specifically know what they love to do. The next thought that pops in their head is “Oh, I can’t make any money off of that.” The seed that was planted never grew.

I hate vague answers. I want clear, logical, definitive answers to questions.

So let’s do this.

Step 1: You WILL find the answer. No doubt.

You will find the answer. You will find it. No doubt.

Approach the question with this mentality and you are sure to find it. How long will it take? It does not matter. Bottom line, you will find the answer.

By doing this, you automatically instil an anti quitting mechanism within yourself, because you know you will find the answer. If you know what you want to do, then you will do it.

For example, if you know you want to arrive in Sydney , you’ll find ways to get there. You’ll hop a train, bus, or plane going there and will arrive at the correct destination

If you don’t have the cash, you’ll borrow it, or get a job and save up, or get a job as a flight attendant to get there for free. It does not matter how long it will take or what you need to do because you know you’re going to Sydney

All your actions onward from the decision that you want to arrive in Sydney  will revolve around you getting there

Read that last sentence again.

All your actions onward from the decision that you want to arrive in Sydney will revolve around you getting there

Finding what you love to do = Deciding to arrive in Sydney

Step 2: Make a list of your skills and interests in two columns and WRITE THEM DOWN (I’ll explain why you must write things down later):

THE  KEY is to WRITE THESE DOWN!! I cannot emphasize this enough. Don’t think you can do it all in your head. WRITE IT DOWN.

When I mean by skills is any skill. It could be an intangible skill. Empty your clip here, list EVERY skill you have. It could be programming, making web pages, blogging,talking, listening, persuading people, typing, flirting, analysing, giving speeches, making things easy to understand, whistling, blowing bubbles with your spit, it could be anything. Don’t be bashful. List everything you perceive your skills to be.

On your other column, lists your interests and don’t be shy here as well. List EVERY interest you could possibly think of. Spiders, shoes, hair, makeup, basketball, tennis, thinking of ideas, babysitting, walking, hiking, fireworks, helping people, making fun of people, fishing, tai chi, karate, seashells, seaweed, can openers, anything goes. Yes, I did say can openers. Your interests can also include subjects you are knowledgeable about as well. Computers, economics, biology, baskeball plays, football plays, magic tricks, etc.

To help you write down more interests, think of what you were interested in at your previous jobs and write them down. Also, think of what you were NOT interested in your previous jobs and write the exact opposite.

Asking yourself the following questions may shed light as to what skills and interests you possess.

If you went in a bookstore, which section do you naturally gravitate toward?
Ask friends for any skills and interests they see in you. You’ll be surprised at how much insight they have on you that you’ve never thought of before.

What do you spend most of your time doing? What do you look forward to doing? Go back and think of your accomplishments as a child. What kind of skills and interests revolved around your accomplishments?

What did people praise you on doing?

What did your teachers or parents say you had a skill or knack of doing?

Why am I emphasizing skills and interests here?

Skills: Because you have got to leverage what you’re strong with. And don’t say you don’t have any. Everybody has skills. You’ve just never sat down and thought about it and wrote it down. By using your skills, you’ve got a head start, a catalyst.

Interests: Simply because you have got to love what you do. By including interests, you include another form of an anti quitting mechanism.

Focus on generating as many skills and interests you can possibly think of and WRITE IT DOWN!

You may find that your skills are gravitating toward one or two particular skills. The same may hold true for interests. Keep that in mind for step 3.

Step 3: Set aside some TRUE alone time with no distractions to focus and figure out what you love to do by asking yourself the right questions.

It amazes me how people set aside time for taxes, cooking, watching movies, reading, but when it comes to their own personal future, they NEVER set aside any time. How much MORE time should you set aside to figure out the path that will make you happy?

Ok, you have set some private alone time with no distractions; now what?

You must ask yourself an extremely clear question. Clarity is key here. The clearer the question, the easier the answer will be.

For example, if I ask you what 12 times 12 is, the answer comes easily, 144.

However, if I ask, what is some even two digit number times some other even two digit number? Guess how long it’ll take you to answer that question?

Clear questions lead to clear answers.

Another key thing is to WRITE it down. I know you have heard it a billion times and it’s so cliché but there’s a reason. Writing things down allows you to easily make connections you have never thought of before because you see it on paper. It also allows you to “free room” in your brain for other thoughts because they are put in another container so to speak.

If I ask you, what’s 349 times 762, try doing that in your head vs. writing it down. When you write it down, the answer comes out easier, not to mention more accurate.

If you haven’t already wrote down your skills and interests in the previous step, STOP and DO IT NOW. It won’t do you any good having them in your head.

So, let’s use your alone time to ask yourself a clear question in writing. What is the question you should ask yourself? Is it: “What do I love to do?”

That question is a bit broad, so let’s narrow it down a little. Try asking yourself:

What would I love to do on a daily basis utilizing both my skills and interests that will add significant value to people?

See the difference here? The more detailed and clearer the question, the easier it is to answer it. Why did I add the add value part? Because that will lead you to find a way to make money doing what you love.

By incorporating the question of how to add significant value by utilizing your skills, you automatically filter out all the “common answers” that people come up with when asked what they love to do. Common answers such as: “I love to watch TV.” Or “I love to play video games.” Answers such as that discourage people because they see no way of making money from it.

Adding to that, many people tend to make the mistake of focusing on how to make money. A lot of people fail to realize that money is just a by product of adding value in the form of a product or service to people.

When you know how you can add value to people, you’ll know how to get money.

Open up Word or get out a blank sheet of paper and write that question up at the top. Here it is again in case you don’t want to scroll up.

What would I love to do on a daily basis utilizing both my skills and interests that will add significant value to people?

The KEY is to WRITE YOUR ANSWERS DOWN!! I cannot emphasize this enough. Don’t think you can do it all in your head. WRITE IT DOWN.

Looking at the two column list you made in the previous step, start writing down a list of answers. Just write. It doesn’t have to be perfect and it does not have to make sense because sooner or later, you will connect the dots. Here’s a story to illustrate what I’m talking about.

There was a story about a small town with a ski resort which attracted a lot of tourists, which in turn helped the town’s economy. However, when it snowed, the snowfall collected on the power cables, until the weight was enough to collapse the cables, resulting in several power outages. Slowly but surely, tourists stopped coming, so the town held a meeting to discuss how to solve the problem of having snow collect on the power cables. Solutions were tossed out for quite some time.

Then somebody shouted in a loud voice from the back of the room and said “Let’s hang pots of honey on the power cables to make the bears climb up. When the bears climb up and get the honey, their movement will shake the snow off the power cables.”

The audience laughed and somebody else deciding to play along said “How will we refill the pots of honey?” “We’ll use a helicopter”, another person said.

Then the answer dawned upon them. By having a helicopter fly by the power lines, the wind from the propellers would shake the snow off.

The main point here is that answers, no matter how ridiculous they may seem, should not be feared because more often than not, they lead to results. It’s all part of the process.

Even if an answer seems ludicrous, write it down. Write down all your answers. Do it until you have 20 answers and look them over. You will find that as you write down answers and look at them, it will in turn propel you to think of new creative answers that you would not have come up with before.

You will be amazed at all the things you wrote and the different solid creative ideas that come about.

Now the time comes for focus.

I am sure you have heard of the sun and magnifying glass analogy pertaining to focus but I am going to say it again. If you try to do a bunch of things at once, nothing will get done. If you wave a magnifying glass around on the hottest day, you won’t burn anything. You’ll dissipate all your energy among the trivial many things lying around.

By focusing and harnessing all your power, energy, time, focus, thinking, etc. on one goal, you will be amazed at how deep and quickly you can accomplish that. Just as you steady a magnifying glass on a single object, with the hot burning sun rays analogous to your desire, focus, power, energy, time, etc, you will make an impact.

The notion of focus is so important that I amm going to use another analogy. Imagine you’re a cheetah and you see two juicy gazelles grazing in the grass. Spending your time chasing both = no food = death. Hunt one down. It might take time to catch it and kill it, but when you do, you’ll be recharged. You will soon start collecting information on how the gazelles run, which direction they run, where they like to graze, etc, which will help you catch more gazelles in the future, thereby putting you in a favourable cycle. Case in point, focus on one.

So look over your list you just made and choose one idea that seems the most appealing to you. You may find you can combine a few ideas into one idea. Nevertheless, choose one idea that you will garner the greatest satisfaction not just for yourself, but to other people.

You might want to zero in on the ideas that combine your skills and interests that you have listed in the beginning. The reason being, psychologically speaking, you have probably listed your greatest skills and interests first and then as you started listing them downward, so did your degree of skill and interest. This might not be true. You might have 20 different but equal skills and interests, which if you do, I congratulate you. Just a tip I thought I would throw out.

How Will You Know You have Found What You Love To Do?

Does it make you feel good? If you feel it in your gut that you have hit the jackpot, you’re right.

If your friend were to bring up the idea you picked, would you be all over it talking about it?

You have to have no reservations about it. If you feel the slightest doubt that it’s not your passion, then it’s not. You must hunger to overcome any obstacles to pursue your passion.

Once you have that, your search is over.

That, right there is what you love to do.

As for how to make money off of it, you might have already found ways when you wrote down your answers. If you still want to find more ways to make money doing what you love, just follow the same steps.

Step 1: Know you will find the answer.

Step 2: Write a clear question, write down the answers, and you will be amazed at the many ways you can make money from it.

I’ll leave the money making question up to you, but it should not be hard to do.

Now that you know what you love to do and how to make money from it, you must ACT.

That’s a whole other story. Most people get to this stage but don’t act and it does not make any difference in their lives.

Invest in yourself by learning how to take action, set goals, manage your time, eliminate fear and doubt (the two biggest dream killers), change the way you think, think positively, visualize, etc., and live the life you want, not the one that others have laid before you.

Invest in yourself and make it happen.

Creating A Positive Mindset


Your mindset is such a powerful thing. It has the ability to control you, persuade you and even hold you back from doing or achieving things in your life.
It can even make you feel unhappy, when circumstances seem to prove that you should be happy. This can be confusing. – I am sure we have all experienced times like these.
Mindset can have a huge positive impact on how things go in your life, and in your online business.
But it’s really not that simple at all…

I struggled with this whole mindset thing for many years. You know the whole “think it and it will happen” thing. Or if you want to be happy, just choose to be happy. Or just thinking about losing weight will make you thinner. Etc, etc, etc
You and I both know it’s harder than that.
If it was as easy as “thinking it” or changing your thinking…. everyone would be happy, successful, skinny, content, healthy etc. And they’re not. We are not.
I used to have a saying about thoughts & feelings that went like this: “It is what it is and it isn’t what it isn’t. You can’t change how you feel.”
You can’t make yourself have feelings for someone, no matter how great they are. And you can’t make yourself *not* love someone, no matter how horrible they are.
You feel how you feel.
You can’t make yourself like broccoli if you don’t. You can make yourself eat it, but you can’t make yourself like it. If you eat broccoli for 100 days straight… you won’t become fonder of it, you’ll just be sicker of it. Trust me.
The thing is, feelings can be seriously fickle! And as flaky as they can be, it’s interesting just how much control they have over us.
Sometimes things (thoughts, feelings, circumstances) just change on their own over time. Most of the time they don’t, so don’t sit around waiting and hoping. The truth is, how you think or feel about something right now is pretty darn hard to change.
For some people, it seems or feels totally impossible.

a mindset is a set of assumptions, methods or notations held by one or more people or groups of people which is so established that it creates a powerful incentive within these people or groups to continue to adopt or accept prior behaviors, choices, or tools.
Changing Your Mindset
But it’s true that it’s simply not that easy. Fortunately it can be done. You can change your mindset – and the way you think or feel about any given thing.
I’ve figured out a trick to shift things in the right direction.
The first step to changing your mindset – that powerful pull in your head that forces you to choose even things you know are wrong or negative or bad for you – is to know what your mindset is exactly.
You have a certain mindset about all sorts of things. Your health, your business, your future, success, failure, food, parenting, whatever it may be.
You can try all sorts of tricks to change that mindset. You can hire a coach. You can listen to hypnotic audios. You can think something new till you’re blue in the face. But you believe what you believe, you think what you think, and you feel what you feel. And you’re stuck there…
How to Get Un-Stuck
First of all, let me backtrack and say that thinking positive things is good. Looking at helpful options like coaching, products, and alternative methods are good also.
They’re all good, because they are a sign that you’re interested in making change.
But hey, everyone wants change, right?
So what makes the difference between the people that can pull it off, and the people that are stuck where they are no matter how much they want to change?
Just wanting is not enough. Wanting plus listening to a speaker or coach or DVD is not enough. Wanting plus thinking about it is not enough.!!!
You have to DO something.!!!!

It is an exchange.
And therein lies the key. The key to changing your mindset, and making lasting positive change in your life. YOU have to take some specific, deliberate action to put things in motion – toward a result that you know, can picture & desire deeply.
You have to commit. And commitment can’t be in your mind alone – you have to commit with a definitive action.
Once you take that action, something almost magical happens. Just taking that action starts the shift, and starts to change your mindset. You will begin to feel different. You will see things differently. You will think totally different about something when you’re on the other side of the action you took.
Taking Personal Responsibility

It would be nice if it were just a matter of time, or even just a matter of money. If you could pay someone to change your mindset. Or if you could buy a magic pill , a DVD, or a Seminar ticket that would do it for you.
There are all kinds of people and products that make these claims, by the way. Preying on the fact that you’re stuck, you know you’re stuck, and you can’t figure out how to get un-stuck on your own.
Some of those things can be great tools to assist you in changing your mindset, and making long-term positive change in your life and in your business. But none of them are going to do it for you, or do it without you. No matter how much you pay.
So the big question is: how do you put the wheels in motion?
Well, I can tell you one thing – it’s not by buying the latest product. And I’m guessing you’ve already figured that out. If you’re this far in the game, you probably already have everything you need to start moving in the right direction. The only thing missing now is you… moving.
Let’s use weight loss as an example. You can buy DVD’s. You can sign up for weight loss programs. You can sign up for a gym membership. You can buy exercise equipment from infomercials. But none of those things will take the pounds off.
You have to commit to an action. You have to force uncomfortable change. You often have to sacrifice something. Your hour of morning television, or your favourite peanut butter cookies.
Most of us will try to shift the responsibility onto someone else. We purchase their product. We buy into their plan. We take their advice. But without a commitment of action behind it, we’ll fail. And we blame “someone else” every time.
I can tell you with certainty that the Billy’s Boot camp workout videos did not work for me. Of course, I’ve never actually done an entire segment all the way through. I did buy the DVD set, I did play it on two different occasions, but I never made a personal commitment to them on my end. Was their fault or mine?
We both know the answers to that don’t we?
Bottom line: don’t look to others for the answer. Or to be told what to do next, or which action you should take to get things moving in the right direction. The only reason we ever do that is so we’re not responsible for the outcome. So we have someone to blame when WE fail to follow through on our end.
Going Against The Grain

You feel how you feel, think what you think, and believe what you believe. Right or wrong, moving toward your goals may go against some of that. And that’s okay. It doesn’t make it easy at all! but it’s okay.
Challenge your current mindset. Take thoughts like these:
• I could never do……..
• I want to make a million dollars
• I don’t think I’m cut out for this
• I’m not as strong as him/her
• I want to earn $20,000/month
Or insert your own common thoughts – and then ask yourself WHY.
For the next few days, keep a notepad close and make note of common thoughts or mindset issues that you recognize. And question them. Also take some time to sit down and write out something you want to change in your life or in your business.
What action can you take against a negative mindset, or toward a specific goal? And if that action is painful and something you dread, ask yourself this:
Is it worth it to achieve the end result?
You can listen to all the mindset talk you want, and you can sit and chant too if you like, but in the end you have to GIVE to get. You have to make the first play for the game to ever start.
Like I said, your mindset – and thoughts, feelings, perceptions – will change on the other side of that action you take. Once you jump in with both feet FULL COMMITMENT, WITH ACTION TO BACK IT UP, you’ll put something in motion that makes continuing in the right direction much easier than it ever seemed when you were just sitting around thinking about it.
So go ahead and give it ago……you can do it……I know you CAN!!


Disappointments….How Do You Deal With Them?

When was the last time you faced disappointment from a certain outcome that did not meet your expectations?
It could be any event in your life, from a big set-back to a small mishap.

Perhaps your meeting at work did not go as well as you anticipated.

Your job was not what you expected. Maybe someone you like did not reciprocate your feelings.

Maybe your relationship did not work out the way you hope it would.
How did it feel?

Did you feel like a certain sense of numbness and void inside of you?

Were you despondent and dejected?

Did you feel like the world was ending? Or the sky was falling in?
Disappointments are dissatisfaction’s that arise when your expectations are not met by outcomes.

In short,

a) You had expectations.

b) Things did not unfold against the expectation.
Every day, people deal with disappointments. Depending on how big the disappointment is and how you choose to deal with it, the feeling of disappointment may dissipate after a short while or hang over your life for an extended period. If not handled properly, disappointments can lead to depression and eventually apathy.
Why disappointments are good
Contrary to what people may think, disappointments are actually positive phenomena, for two main reasons.
1. Passion toward a cause
Disappointment is the reflection of your passion toward something, be it a certain goal, dream, desire or outcome. Wherever there is a cause, there will be an effect – in this case, the passion is the cause and disappointment is the effect. If you don’t care about something, you wouldn’t be feeling disappointed, would you?

The presence of disappointment suggests that this is something you care about so much that you would feel bad over it. The higher your disappointment, the stronger your passion for this is.
As Martin Luther King Jr puts it very adeptly, “There can be no deep disappointment where there is not deep love.” This deep love is what drives you toward your goals, dreams and desires. This deep love will be what fuels you in life, bringing you to places you have never been before. This deep love is what makes life worth living. Remember that disappointment is always a better emotional state than apathy or neutrality where the individual feels indifferent toward anything. I would rather be feeling a negative emotion any day than feeling absolutely nothing. The ability to feel is what sets us apart from non-living beings. To feel nothing is to be a robot or a machine

2. Represents an opportunity for progress
Disappointment also signals an opportunity for progress and growth. If you are disappointed in an outcome, it means there is actually a certain error in your framework of thought which need to be resolved.
Whenever you are disappointed, it means you have certain mental illusions about reality which you need to discuss. On the flip side, if your perceptions of reality are always right, you will never feel disappointed at all. By correcting your illusions and getting a more accurate picture of the reality, you are equipped with more knowledge. This knowledge is a source of power; power for you to act toward your goals.
Think of disappointment as a troubleshooting tool which helps you iron out the kinks in your perception of reality. By using the knowledge from your previous experience, you can act more accurately toward your desires. The more you deal with disappointment and learn from it, the closer you will get toward your goals and dreams.

How do you normally deal with your disappointments? Do you block them out of your life? Do you sleep them off and hope that you will feel better when you wake up? Do you tap into them as a source of energy for your future goals?

Dealing with Disappointments In Destructive Manners

Many people are caught like fish out of water when they are faced with disappointment. Because they are not taught on how to deal with it, they end up adopting various destructive approaches instead.

1. Avoidance by numbing yourself with other activities

Some people try to drown out or tune out of their disappointment by engaging in anything that takes their mind off the subject. They may partake in activities such as partying, hanging out, sleeping. They push themselves into going through the motions of daily life so they can just run in auto-pilot mode without thinking. Some turn to addictions such as retail therapy, playing games, emotional eating, sex or even stimulants such as alcohol and drugs. These people seek solace in whatever that is within their radius, in their effort to avoid being alone with their disappointment. Rebound relationships are commonly formed for this reason, where the person tries to get over the previous relationship without having to deal with it directly.

While these give a temporal uplift in the short-run, they do not resolve the issue. Soon after, they face another situation which leads to disappointment again. Instead of properly resolving the problem, their immediate reaction is to turn to the same set of activities and actions to drown out the emotions. This eventually continues in a downward spiral.

2. Denying your goals and dreams

In the longer term, some block out their dreams and goals in life, pretending they don’t exist. They develop dual personality halves – on the outside, they erect a wall which serves as a form of defence mechanism; on the inside, and they hide their real self and desires underneath. They condition themselves into not setting any expectations, since disappointment will not occur where there are no expectations.

For example, people who have been scarred by negative relationships tend to develop barriers to love. On the outside, they seem aloof and cool; however on the inside they long to find their special someone. Because they fear getting hurt, they deny their desire for relationships and refuse to let people into their lives. At some point in the future, this denial catches up with them and it creates a backlash. Have you ever met such people before? They look like they don’t care, but you know on the inside, they really do care. As they block out their desires, they in turn make themselves more miserable in the long-run instead.

3. Giving up on your goals and dreams

There is another group of people who give up on their goals and dreams. While they still long for their goals, these people resign to a fate where they will never reach them. They become depressed and self-depreciative, devaluing their own self-worth and thinking they are not meant to achieve anything. They spend more effort everyday trying to convince themselves and people around them that they will never ever achieve their goals, as opposed to acting on them.

What Happens When You Deal With Disappointments Destructively

If you have ever dealt with disappointments in the above way, you are not properly dealing with them.


Whenever you try to drown out your disappointment, deny your goals and dreams or even give up on them, you are really just rejecting who you are on the inside. You are denying your desires, your wants, your goals, your dreams, your visions, your real self – everything. These desires originated from somewhere inside of you, for a reason – and that reason is not for them to be denied. To quote Esther and Jerry Hicks, “If you have the ability to imagine it, or even to think about it, this Universe has the ability and the resources to deliver it fully unto you.”

When you try to deny your real desires, you are just hollowing yourself from inside out. You can try to pretend everything is fine and lead your everyday life, but you cannot fool your subconsciousness. Every day, living feels like an empty act. Over time, you will find yourself sinking from a state of disappointment and dissatisfaction to a state of apathy. You start living everyday in a lifeless, zombie-like way, with no passion or zest. You feel like you are just swirled up on the inside; Everything through your lens just seems barren and empty.

The good news is, it doesn’t have to be this way at all. You are not alone in your disappointment. Everyone has faced disappointment at some point – your friends, family, teachers, managers, co-workers, etc. I have faced disappointments before as well, from all different areas of my life. It is not a phenomenon exclusive to you. As much as disappointment is an emotion triggered without your conscious undertaking, you can proactively deal with it in a conscious way. As long as you learn how you address your disappointments properly and pick up from here, you can lead life the way it is meant to be led – in alignment with your passions and inner desires.

Dealing with Disappointment – Constructively

Put yourself in a clearer mental state

Whenever you experience disappointment, you are pulled down into a lower state of consciousness, where your thoughts are predominantly rooted in fear, sadness, grief or even apathy. There may be times when the feeling of disappointment is so overwhelming that it feels like the end of the world.

Being trapped in such a state it prevents you from thinking logically and clearly. When dealing with disappointment, your first focus should be to bring your consciousness up to a more neutral or positive level such as desire, neutrality, willingness and reason so that you are in a better place to react to your situation.

Look for positive activities where you can recharge yourself. What activities do you most enjoy doing in your life? Identify them. It can be writing in your personal journal, playing games, walking in the park, watching a happy movie or talking to positive friends. If you find that reading your favourite book uplifts you, then pick up the book and start reading it. If taking a stroll along your neighbourhood makes you more relaxed, then get out of your house and enjoy the breeze outside. If playing games can makes you feel happier, go ahead and play them. Do whatever makes you feel better. Sometimes, simply spending time alone might be the best way for you to clear out your mental clutter and regain personal energy.

For me, I find that a combination of activities including alone time, talking with my good friends, watching my favourite shows and playing my favorite sports help to lift me up considerably. I absolutely love playing Ultimate Frisbee and badminton; when I am playing them I get a lot of exhilaration and fun out of the exercise. In times when I feel really down, I would rather prefer spending time by myself. This alone time allows me sort out the thoughts in my mind, think without external interferences and gain clarity on what to do in my situation. Talking with my friends, however, makes me privy to other perspectives and thoughts which I may not be aware of in the beginning.

Attach with your desires, not your goals

When you are disappointed, your source of disappointment is rooted in your over-attachment to a certain outcome. When an outcome does not manifest the way you envisioned, you become disappointed. This is a perfectly natural response. However, understand that your expectation in the outcome, or goals, is a reflection or external projection of an underlying desire you have. They might or might not be correct projections, because they are merely subjective interpretations of what you think is needed to live up to your underlying desire.

For example, let’s say you went for an interview with Company A. You love the job scope, the benefits package is great, you have heard rave reviews about the place. All in all, you see a career at Company A as the equivalent of your dream career. However, you are passed over for another candidate whom they deemed as a better fit for the role. Company A happens to have a policy of only accepting applications from the same candidate once every 2 years. There is no way you can try until 2 years later. What should you do from here?

The second step toward dealing with disappointment requires you to attach yourself to the desires behind your desires, not your goals. Start off by recognizing that a job in Company A is just a projection of your inner desires. Your inner desire may be to get a career which challenges and stretches you in a dynamic working environment. If there’s the case, there are many ways you can do that, such as working in Company G, Company X, or even setting up your own business. Working at Company A is just one of the many ways which you can achieve that.

A common example where people tie themselves too much to their external projections of their desires is in relationships. For example, you like person A. You want to be together with him/her, but the person A does not reciprocate the feelings. While you may feel disappointed, stop and think – What are your underlying intents? It is to be in a loving, authentic relationship with someone. Person A is just one of the many people in this world who can make you feel love. He/she is not going to be only person you are capable of loving; there are many other people out there whom you will love as well. Instead of tying all your expectations to this one person, link yourself with the underlying desire to find real, authentic love.

Ask yourself this question: What are your real desires that are driving your expectations? Understand what they are and list them down. Say you are at point A and you want to move to point B. When you link yourself with these desires, you will realize that point B is just one of the many destinations you can go to. There are many other possible destinations, such as point C, D, E.. all the way to Z, then there’s even A-1, A-2.. and so on, where you can achieve your desires just as well, if not better. Attach yourself to your desires, not your interpretations of what will achieve your desires.

Release yourself of your mental illusion

The next step in dealing with your disappointment is to release yourself of your mental illusions of what reality should be. Many people stay in a disappointed state because they are hung up over their expectations of what reality should be. If you are disappointed over something, you are harbouring certain perceptions of what it should be. These perceptions are not the reality; they are figments in your mind which are untrue. If they are true, why are they causing you disappointment?

These mental illusions are dis-empowering because they keep you caught in the negative state you are in. As long as you are trapped in them, it prevents you from progressing toward where you want to go. Dealing with disappointment requires you to let yourself go of the mental illusions.

When you are disappointed, ask yourself this – what is it that I getting hung up over? What false perceptions am I still clinging myself on with? What am I expecting from the reality that it is not giving me? Seek these illusions out, one by one. Question yourself how and when you came to have the illusions. Become aware of them and release yourself from them. These illusions are giving you an inaccurate view of reality. They are preventing you from acting constructively on your situation or living your life the way you should.

If we look at the same relationship example from above, you are disappointed in the situation because you wanted to be with person A. You feel that you have lost what could have been a great relationship. However, that is actually just an illusion in your mind that you are playing in your head. If person A is does not want to be with you for whichever reasons, he/she is not going to be the person who can achieve your desire for a relationship. He/she is not going to be the person who can give you want you desire. Your belief that he/she is the one for you is actually an illusion that you need to release yourself of.

Understand the outcome is not a setback

Previously we discussed that one of the reasons why disappointments are good is because it represents an opportunity for growth. Many people become disappointed with occurrences because they view that as a setback or a failure vs what they want to achieve. They feel like they have taken a step back from what they have come to acknowledge or expect.

For example, say you did a lot of preparation and late night studying for your exams. You had the belief that these actions, along with what you knew about your reality, would result in you getting high-flying results. However, instead of achieving that outcome, you fell short of your expectations.

While you may be feeling disappointed, this experience is actually showing you that there is a misconception in your thinking. What you originally thought is enough to achieve your outcome actually isn’t. Instead, you may need to increase your resources or change your approach to achieve the results you want. Your disappointment is actually helping you to move toward your goals, not away from it as you originally thought.

Your experience has resulted in you obtaining new lessons, whether about yourself, the situation or even the world. You have gained something which nobody else is privy to. How can an outcome be a setback if it gave you something new to learn about? As Friedrich Nietzsche said in the opening quote of the article, “What doesn’t kill us makes us stronger.” With this new learning, you walk away from previous experience a better person. You will become a stronger individual. You reach a whole new level of awareness, consciousness and growth which you never had before.

Moving Forward: Focus on doing the best you can

Dealing with disappointment is definitely not an easy task, but if you work hard at the steps mentioned above, it will eventually help to pull you out of the void state you are in. As you start living past your disappointments, focus on living in fullest alignment with your desires, instead of your goals. Continue to have goals. Let them drive you forward. However, take note not to attach yourself with these goals. When you do that, you start to fall into the trap of associating your existence with them. This is not sustainable because those goals are just external outcomes which are impermanent.

I have a good friend who once said to me – “Life is not just about reaching the goals; it’s about living it to the fullest.” And she is right. In every situation you are in, choose the action which lets you live in alignment with your inner desires the most, within your abilities, within your situational contexts. As long as you are doing that, there is no reason why you should feel down or bad, because you have done all that you can. I wrote about this notion in Living in Alignment with Your Purpose in the context of living with your purpose.

When you start doing that, you will find that you can live consciously and freely instead of subjecting yourself to outcomes. You can constructively channel the passion of your inner desires to live the kind of life you want.

Dreams, Desires and Passions

Have you stopped dreaming because you fear disappointment, you now lack any belief in who you are and what you are capable of?

Have you settled for mediocrity?
We all have dreams. We have a mass of wishes that alas we allow to stay as no more than wishful thinking. So many of you just put up with a life that you find hard, that offers very little happiness. As you get older, and more battle weary, you learn it is pointless to dream. Or should you think this way?

You accept your life, and don’t waste any time even day dreaming about other possibilities. Yet most of you want a life that is at least a little better from the one you’re living right now.

Yet you think it is better not to dream, why build up your hopes, just to be disappointed further down the line. There’s probably a lot more that you want in life, but unfortunately you don’t believe any longer that you can achieve any of it.


Why give up on your dreams?

The truth is you can turn your dreams into reality, you just must NEVER GIVE UP!
Dreams never die, they just lie dormant inside. You know that deep down inside of you that you still hold on to a dream or two and it still stays alive in your heart.
This article won’t bring an over night radical change to your life. Miracles don’t happen overnight. They take time. But for now, start to realise the worth and value of your dream, and this time never give up and make an effort to explore your dream. Remember if you want something badly enough and you try hard to achieve it, no force of this world can stop you from achieving it.
I could have dwelled on all the reasons someone like me couldn’t become a successful online entrepreneur and blogger. Instead, I discarded those  101 negative reasons why I wouldn’t be able to do it.

The one thing I had going for me was my fire inside of me, my passion.
As unrealistic as my goal might have seemed to others, I held on to the belief that we don’t need to know how something is going to manifest, we just have to trust that it will.

Then put our energy into making it happen.
There are no big secrets to making your dreams come true.
But there are certain elements found in every dream realized.

They are:
• The belief in yourself
• Complete desire for the dream
• Masses of passion
• A lot of hard work
And Never Giving Up
It has been said that whatever you can dream of, you can achieve. So believe your dreams are achievable and go put in the effort needed to make them work.

Take the following steps toward pursuing your dreams:
1. Be specific about your dream. To create the reality that you want, you first need to dream it. You can’t consciously create what you can’t imagine.

So get specific about your dream, start using your imagination, visualize it, create the video in your mind. See exactly what it is you want to do, be or have.
2. Turn your dream into a burning desire.

Once you know exactly what your dream is you now need to create the burning desire in your heart. You now need to 100% believe you can achieve this dream. Once you have the belief, then its no longer just a dream, it becomes a true possibility. The how doesn’t matter at this point, just believe you will find the way. Now you can open your mind up to the awesome power of your creative imagination. Let it now help you find the way. Just make sure you believe it can be done and that you can do it.
3. Turn your burning desires into goals. With the right mindset and proper goal setting, there is nothing you cannot have, cannot do or cannot be. It is simply a matter of identifying what you really want. It is easy to look at your dreams and think only of the obstacles in your way. If you focus on goal setting instead, you can have the aspects of those dreams that are really important to you. Find the goals within your dreams, and you will find that those goals are attainable.
4. Create a strategic plan of action. You will need to create a strategy for the accomplishment of your goals. Reaching your goals can be challenging if you have no map to follow. Create action steps to follow. Identify a critical path. The critical path defines the key accomplishments along the way, the most important steps that must happen for the goal to become a reality
5. Take action now. Once you have turned your goals into a plan of action, you need to take action and make the most of every opportunity that will come your way. Action is an amazing thing, no matter what needs to get done, nothing happens unless as individuals we DO IT. Take small steps and you’ll find that one step leads to another, then the next. “Rome wasn’t built in a day.”
6. Be confident; Have no doubts in yourself what so ever. Work on your motivation daily. Allow your Dream to be at the fore-front of your life, the “core of your being”. It will motivate, inspire and energize you by giving you a sense of purpose. Only you have the power to kill your dream. Nothing is impossible to the person, whose vision becomes a dream and when that dream is allowed to take control over your life.
7. Review your progress regularly. Review your strategy and progress from time to time.

Evaluate your strategies and tactics.

How effectively are you progressing down your chosen path?

Are you getting the results expected and what you desire?

If not, try another approach.

• If you have achieved your goals for that time period.
• If you still have a desire to follow your dream.
• If you have deviated from the path toward fulfilling your goal.
8. Don’t Surrender to Negativity. I’m too old, a woman, have no money, no resources, no contacts”. Challenge them.

Nothing is impossible to the person who has the desire to succeed. As the proverb says, ” where there’s a will, there’s a way”.
Use the above steps and work towards your dream with all your focus, concentration and confidence. Your goal will become a reality sooner that you could have ever imagined.
Your dreams are your strength and drive. Just remember, you don’t have to know how you will achieve your dream, just believe it possible, and let this belief empower you!
What is your dream? Do you think you will achieve it in this lifetime?
“A dream is an inspiring picture of the future that energizes your mind, will, and emotions, empowering you to do everything you can to achieve it.”

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